Eli: Like a boss

Eli earned a new nickname this week:

Boss.

He did the best he could to boss everyone in his world, everyone trying to mess with him.

He is 38 pounds of piss and vinegar.

He’s a boss.

Want to take the piss out of him? (Literally)?

Naw, he ain’t havin it.

Need a drop of blood?

Yeah, sure, ya want a knuckle sandwich first?

To alleviate our boredom as a hospital stay stretched on, I blew up hospital gloves and turned them into weird, blue people, like Hand Baby, who became Eli’s hospital Wilson.

Except Eli punched the shit out of hand baby, not to mention hand baby’s ill-fated dad, Dad Hand.

Next, Eli potty trained hand baby, like a boss.

We could all learn a thing or two from Eli. He knows how he feels and he’s not afraid to let you know how he feels.

Of course, at 3, he doesn’t understand people trying to take things from him and hurt him are actually trying to keep him well.

That’s where Mark and me come in. We let those people do the things to him they need to do to keep him well, completely against the wishes of my little big boss.

It’s heartbreaking. I betrayed my son roughly 204 times in our thus far short 5-day battle to get his lungs working right, holding him down procedure after procedure, through his protests of thrashes and screams and “I HATE YOU”s.

His preferred emphasis word is “really,” as in “REALLY,” as in “This REALLY REALLY REALLY hurts,” and “I REALLY REALLY WANT TO GO HOME.”

We know more now about what happened this week to Eli’s body, when he stopped breathing right and his tum and neck sucked in to squeeze more oxygen into his blood and his heartrate spiked. We know thanks to a sputum sample that entailed a team of doctors and nurses and me holding him down while they stuck a tube through his nose and down his throat and scraped out some junk, to tot protests so loud that they were surely heard around the world.

A few days later that junk had a name; the blossoming outbreak of a common cystic fibrosis bacteria currently fucking with my son is Haemophilus influenzae. 

It’s a little more complicated than that, though. He had a trifecta of viruses in him, including RSV, entero and rhino viruses. Those viruses made the Haemohilus influenzae bacteria stuck in his lungs because of the CF jazz on up. He had a “CF exacerbation,” a clinical term that essentially means bad chronic bronchitis.

That much we know and today, after five days of pumping oxygen and antibiotics, Eli was well enough to go home.

He had a PICC line placed and needs antibiotics for roughly 10 more days at home.

It doesn’t mean he’s over it, all of this, all of these people messing with him.

After ignoring his demands all week for the sake of his health, he made a final plea as we left the hospital and drove by a fire truck.

“STOP!” he commanded.

“I WANNA SEE THE FIRE TRUCK.”

He went on and on.

‘I WANNA SEE THE FIRE TRUCK. THE FIRE TRUCK. TURN AROUND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

And for the fir st time all week, I did what he said. I did him one better.

I went to the goddamn fire station 1 downtown with Eli still in his tiger-emblazoned hospital scrubs.

I had to do what the boss said, didn’t I?

Yeah – I DID.

Ok, buddy, here we are. Wanna get out of the car?

He went shy on me.

Come on, sweetie, let’s go look at the ladder truck.

Me with my no-makeup/hair askew/inexplicable active wear (had I not just had like three scones in 12 hours while sitting on my ass?) got Eli out of the car and we walked over to Fire Station 1 in downtown OKC.

The fireman tried to coax Eli into sitting inside the truck, but my son was so shocked that we were at the actual firestation he had  practically gone catatonic. We checked things out for about five minutes and the nice firefighter brought over two sticker badges, one for him, one for sister.

I put Eli back in the car.

He noticed a glass factory across the street.

He wanted to go there now.

“NOW.”

No, sweetie, we have to go home now.

Eli next screamed “NO” for 20 straight minutes, along with “TURN AROUND” and “I HATE YOU.”

He had some residual rage from his hospital stay, from his frustration with people messing with him, doing everything he told them not to. That’s my theory, any way.

I let him scream. I took him home and let him hit me, roll on the floor and hollar to his heart’s content.

“Inconsolable” is the word that comes to mind.

He ran to the door and messed with the locks, so determined was he to get back to the goddamned glass factory.

We distracted him with the prospect of opening a gift that had come in the mail.

Things were better until the home health nurse arrive and we gave him his next dose of antibiotics.

Again, I had to restrain him completely as he screamed and Mark worked the IV flushes and drugs under the supervision of a nurse.

“It won’t hurt, buddy. It’s going to be over soon,” I cooed. “Shhhhh. It’s OK. Shhhh.”

He forgave me, cuddling up afterward.

Since then his smile has returned. We threw him a party with pizza and cake.

He’s smiling again.

Like a boss.

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Laila Bee illustrates how to press flowers in 6 easy steps

Our wildflower garden is in full bloom. I’ll post pics once I yank a few weeds out this weekend. In the mean time, Laila and I have set out to preserve the beauty of summer. Here’s how our first attempt at pressing flowers went:

Flowers!
Flowers!

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Head explosion prevention (little people 2)

As a mom, one of the best things you can do to keep your head from exploding, which would be unfortunate and messy, is to make friends with other moms.

I joined a mom’s group I found online, with an environmental bent. If nothing else, I wanted to figure out what greenies actually looked like in state of Oklahoma (compared to Ann Arbor, where the greenies roam the streets in droves and at times in terrible footwear…Crocs *shudder* )

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This is Sunday morning

Laila had her puzzle game face on, so I made this video. Check out her hard look at the end. Girlfriend can scowl! She’s had a fierce look all day long. Don’t mess…she will destroy you (with her eyes)


Blue steel
Blue steel

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My daughter re-named me Janet and I basically just let her

This morning Laila informed me she was “the boss.”

“I’m in chawge.”

Then she pointed at me and told me my name was Janet.

You. Are. Janet.
You. Are. Janet.

She looked like a teensy weensy dictator. Impressive.

“Yeah, OK baby, sounds good. Janet, All right.”

*yaaaawn*

Thinking back, that was a little rude. I kinda like my name. Juliana…it’s just got that ring.

And if I recall correctly, she kept calling me Janet, and it’s extra rude to call your mother by a first name, unless your family is just kind of modern or casual or something, but this name wasn’t even mine…

It’s “Mommy” to you, kid.

I didn’t correct her. Too tired to care.

So call me Janet. It’s retro.

I’m just curious, other parents and especially parents who have popped out two babies within not a lot of time: when does this whole tired thing end?

For the love of God, tell me it doesn’t last 18 years. Or, at least, that there is a break somewhere that includes a grown-up nap time schedule.Don’t laugh at me for saying that. Just put Janet on a large cot, put a blankie on Janet, read her Good Night Moon and let Janet sleep. Be a sport and indulge crazy Janet’s fantasy that daily nap time for parents is a real thing that exists somewhere….somewhere….

I work a wonk-a-doodle schedule. It works, and I am grateful for that, because we are able to have a 20-hour-a-week nanny for Eli and Laila, instead of a full-timer, which would cost, ya know, twice as much, and by that I mean, a staggering amount of money. It means a few late nights a week. It was fine during the summer, because Mark was always there to lend a hand, and he let me sleep in all the time.

My issue as of late is his return to school. It’s been a slap in the face to sleep.

Mark and I have an agreement during the school year: I get to sleep in Saturdays. He sleeps in Sundays. I usually take a nap during the day on Sunday if we can swing it.

I didn’t get my sleep-in day this week.

He had the nerve to rekindle an old back injury while giving the kids a bath at night.

I took pity on him and let him lay around in the morning to see if the pain would stop.

It didn’t. We panicked. He has in the past experienced years of intense shooting nerve pain, which was great! (said no one ever)Not. Again.

The pain just appeared again out of nowhere. It’s been gone for five years. Why did it come back? Seriously, we can’t deal with this now.

Then, just as mysteriously as it appeared, it left. Less than 48 hours of back pain…

I hope it stays away.

So I didn’t get to sleep in, and Mark got to experience shooting pain (please stay away), and I made coffee, and listened to his back pain groans, and I tried to suppress the urge to make fun of his old-timer noises, and then my daughter re-named me Janet.

Janet.

Yeah. OK. Whatever…

*yawn*

back pain...schmack pain...please stay away...
back pain…schmack pain…please stay away…